Female
orgasm problems --
My
girlfriend never has an orgasm. We have
tried everything. Please help.
Some women who have difficulties
achieving an orgasm need to teach
themselves how to do it first, and then
teach their partners how to stimulate
them to reach orgasm. I suggest she
learns how to masturbate and climax from
masturbation.
Sometimes questions arise about female
masturbation such as “My boyfriend
says it is ok for him to masturbate, but
is it ok for a woman to
masturbate?” The answer is that
masturbation is ok for either
sex.
The only way masturbation can cause
you any harm is if a person overdoes it.
If a person, of either sex, spends so
much time masturbating that they do not
have a life, then they should cut
back.
Going back to the orgasm question, let
me say that while more men masturbate
than women, masturbation can be more
important for women.
There are many women whose
clitoris-vagina systems do not know how
to have an orgasm. The best way to train
the female sex organs to climax from
stimulation is to masturbate. Then, she
should take what she has learnt and show
her partner exactly what stimulation
takes her to orgasm.
Many research studies over the last
several decades have found that the most
effective way of training the clitoris
and vagina areas to respond to sexual
stimulation to the point of climax is
masturbation or stimulation with a
vibrator. Truly remarkable results
are achieved by the use of vibrators for
female masturbation and sexual
stimulation.
In January 1966, Mary Jane Sherfey,
M.D., a traditionally trained
psychoanalyst reported, in an article in
the Journal of The American
Psychoanalytic Association and later in
her book The Nature and Evolution of
Female Sexuality that :
" In clinical practice, a
number of married and single women
using electric vibrators have come
to my attention. From the standpoint of
normal physiological functioning, these
women exhibit a healthy, uninhibited
sexuality ...... and the number of
orgasms attained, a measure of the human
female’s orgasmic
potentiality".
The very influential work of the
renowned sex therapist and educator,
Helen Singer Kaplan, M.D., Ph.D., also
suggested the use of vibrators in the
treatment of non-orgasmic females.
In her book, The New Sex
Therapy : Active Treatment of
Sexual Dysfunction, Dr. Kaplan notes
several ways in which vibrators may be
used as an aid in the treatment of
orgasmic dysfunction.
For one, she suggests a variant of
combined penile insertion and vibrator
assisted clitoral stimulation because
:
"Some women who
are highly resistant to coital orgasm are
able to climax when they are stimulated
with a vibrator during coitus."
(p.407)
She also suggests that for those women
who have never had an orgasm (primary
absolute orgasmic dysfunction),
should manual masturbation not be
sufficient to reach orgasm, then a
vibrator is indicated.
"The vibrator
provides the strongest, most intense
stimulation known." (p. 388)
For women who are not yet orgasmic,
vibrator masturbation can
effectively help you to overcome your
difficulties and to achieve the pleasures
and satisfaction of orgasm through sexual
intercourse. For women who are already
orgasmic, vibrators can take you to new
and greater heights of orgasm
intensity.
A woman who has been unable to orgasm
in the past will very quickly be able to
orgasm through masturbation with a
vibrator. Once you start reaching orgasms
in this way, ask your partner to try
stimulating your clitoris-vagina area
with his fingers or, even better, with
his tongue. He can help you along by
alternating his manual or oral
stimulation with the
vibrator.
You must relax and let the feelings of
sexual pleasure overcome you, without any
shyness or embarrassment. Guide your
partner and show him what kind of
stimulation, and exactly where, feels
best for you. Soon, you will experience
orgasm through sexual stimulation by your
partner and, from there, orgasm through
sexual intercourse will easily
follow.
Also, using a vibrator to stimulate
the clitoris during penis-vagina
intercourse, will raise the female sex
response to an extremely high level,
leading to intense and highly satisfying
orgasms.
These days there is a vast variety of
vibrators available to choose from. For
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For women starting with a vibrator for
the first time, we recommend the Hitachi
Magic Wand, which has set the
standard for personal hand-held massagers
for over 30 years. However, the actual
selection is finally a matter of personal
choice.
Hitachi
Magic Wand
Many women today choose to keep more
than one type of vibrator, for use in
different situations....see
female
masturbation vibrators
Dr. Ruth Westheimer, the noted sex
therapist, recommends a new type of
vibrator - the Eroscillator - as
being highly effective for female
stimulation.
Read Dr. Ruth's views. This device
has also been recommended by university
studies on Psycho-Sensory Comparative
Testing of Three Different Types of
Vibrators.........read
the reports
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